We each deserve to be treated as equals. That can mean a lot of different things to different people because of their circumstances. Wherever the divisions in your life, do not allow others to tell you that you don't deserve to be on the same footing. You do!
If the relationships you are in demand that you do as they say, but not as they do - you can stand your ground and say, No - we both should abide by these guidelines. You are worth holding the line!
A person who cares about / loves / respects you (not just loves having you and what you provide them) would want there to be equality between you.